Want To Make Real Change? Stop Making These 5 Mistakes

The book THE SECRET has really gotten a lot of mixed attention. Many rave about it and others scoff and even those that actually try it and have some level of success just can’t seem to wrap their whole minds around the concept of getting what you want by changing your thinking; they think their success was a fluke or a coincidence. My own review acknowledges some of the shortcomings and fallacies in THE SECRET.

In my own interpretation, the Law of Attraction simply states - you are what you believe you are. You are what you think and therefore you create and attract exactly whatever you focus on and give action to. You can change the circumstances of your life simply by changing your thinking.

Now that a span of time has elapsed since I reviewed the book, I thought it might be helpful to revisit the idea of the Law of Attraction by outlining the top 5 stumbling blocks you can face when you begin to acknowledge and use the Law. I have dealt with these stumbling blocks personally and with clients in my tarot practice.

Belief Systems - Are you aware of what your belief systems are? Are you aware how they help you or how they might hinder you in the pursuit of creating your perfect life? If your belief systems require you to focus in a negative manner about yourself or what you can accomplish, you probably need to make some personal changes. A false premise creates a false result and so if you are still dragging around your parent’s or society’s beliefs maybe it's time to get your own.

Mental Control - Your mind wanders, it is very good about creating scenarios and playing on your fears, it doesn't want to obey. In order to gain better control it is necessary to find a way to quiet the mind, to slow it down, to give it a rest. Examine your habits and replace anything that is feeding your mind garbage - limit your viewing of television, violence, and the nightly news. Try a breathing practice, a movement practice, yoga, meditation, simple stretching or a form of thought focus. Give yourself a mantra to focus on when your mind starts creating its crazy monkey antics. "I can" is a great one.

Action - You can focus all you want but if you don't take action nothing will change. If you want to make a lot of money and you sit on your ass at home and focus and visualize, at some point the creditors are going to show up and take away everything you've got. You'll be sitting on the street corner begging before you know it and “dishing” the Law of Attraction. Why? Because you took no action and action is required. Without action it's just wishing.

Discernment - People who don't listen well make lousy observers. People who are unable to observe will never reason well. You must be able to listen and observe if you are going to use the Law of Attraction to your advantage because you must be able to reason and impose order especially on your mind. If you are reasoning well then a false premise has little chance of getting into the mix. So stop talking and observe the world and people around you more.

Silence - This, in my opinion, is the ultimate key to using attraction and getting what you want but it is a huge stumbling block for many people. It seems to stem from the need to please and to let everyone know what you are doing. Both reasons need to get tossed out the window. People have a tendency to destroy anything that appears threatening to them for a variety of reasons but mostly because of fear so don't tell people what you are doing. They don't need to know you are using mantras or meditating, or creating an incredible life for yourself.

By using silence as a tool you will more easily discern your belief systems. You will know better what action to take. You will gain a new level of control over your mental processes. You will become a better listener and observer.

2 comments:

Herman said...

Hi,

Thanks for the great post..

Your point about law of attraction is very simple..love that.

Quote:
"In my own interpretation, the Law of Attraction simply states - you are what you believe you are. You are what you think and therefore you create and attract exactly whatever you focus on and give action to. You can change the circumstances of your life simply by changing your thinking."

really explain about law of attractions... :)

Herman
http://www.scienceofgettingrichwattles.com

JoLynn Braley said...

Hi Melissa!

Yet another blog I have found through Problogger's group writing project that I will be visiting again! :)

I am with you on your post, I write quite a bit about the law of attraction on my blog (I don't always use that term, though). I apply it to my topic of health and weight loss, however it truly applies to all areas of life.

It is so simple (what you think about is what you will get), yet so many don't work with it to their advantage. Even though I've been reading about it for so long, I cannot say that I have mastered it yet myself. Of course, there is a little more to it (allowing the good to come in is the big step), but if you truly apply the principles, they will work for you. I have attracted both positive and "negative" experiences with it.

Thanks very much for your post. I also have a few Tarot decks although I have not studied the art in any capacity close to what you have. I'll come back to visit your blog again; I have more Problogger submissions to read now. :)

All the best,

JoLynn